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3 steps to set healthy boundaries + tips how to make the process easier

While Instagram is crashing, again and again, I can finally focus on writing here :) I always have been a YES person. Whoever asks me for whatever I am total Yes, of course. And I love my family and friends from the bottom of my heart but sometimes they are taking advantage of that. I am always here for them, always ready to help and to do a favor. But this is draining me and is sucking the life out of me. It takes me days in bed to recover and gain back my energy. So one of the decisions I took recently is to learn how to set healthy boundaries. And that is not an easy task. I don't know how to say a straight No. I am afraid that I am going to offend someone or even lose them because of it. I know that these are not rational thoughts but I can't help it. So I decided to face my fear with my shoulders straight. These are the steps I took to build better boundaries and maintain them: Step 1: Define your limits - The first thing I did was to put in words what I feel. Tr
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8 self-care tips

Since my recovery started 40 days ago I am on a mission to find every possible way for self-care. Thanks to the support of my family and boyfriend I am in a position to be able to afford to stay at home and not working for a while. Soon all this will be over and I will have to go out of my cozy cocoon and go back in the reality. I made a list of my favorite self-care practices that I will keep after my recovery is over and I want to share it with you :) 1. Walks in nature - If you are like me, blessed with amazing city parks, it wouldn't be hard for you to do it also. My favorite thing in the world is to walk through a big park or a forest alone and lay down on a soft blanket on the ground. I can stay like that for hours, just watching the green. 2. Cuddle with my cat - Ema is a continuous source of joy for me. This fuzzy ball of love makes me feel responsible and I have the desire to protect her with my arms.  3. A cup of coffee - In the long, summer days one

12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos - Reviw

I mentioned this book more than 20 times in the previous weeks because for me is exactly that - An antidote to Chaos. Jordan Peterson's popularity is growing faster than a new hairstyle trend. In the past two years, we could see him kicking the ass of a cocky journalist, giving his lectures at the University of Toronto and answering a profound question in Quora. Peterson is the new face of the philosopher-intellectual, sometimes even a bit of an egghead. University professor and a psychologist, with passionate opinion and precise arguments his youtube videos, have more than 16 million views. Peterson is a modern day living legend. The book itself is a natural extension of his thoughts and ideas. Personally, 12 Rules for Life pulled me out of the anxiety hall. The mix of scientific arguments and legends made me think about the meaning of life a bit differently. The rules are simple and easy to follow. But what I found most interesting is how he wrote it as an ironic wink to a

How to overcome Anxiety in 10 simple steps

Anxiety is the number one mental illness in the world right now. In 2017 there were 284 million people who suffered from it. That is huge! Anxiety can eat you alive, is destructive and it cripples your everyday life. It can come to a point to destroy your relationship, your friendships and to mess with your job. Anxiety is the enemy of the 21st century. I have been diagnosed with Anxiety disorder 2 years ago. This is the second time I am on medications. It is literally fucking up my life.  The first advice I can give to anyone who is fighting with anxiety is Go to therapy! Cognitive behavioral therapy has proven to be most effective. But If you can't go for some reasons there are 10 simple steps on how to overcome anxiety on your own.  Step 1. Acknowledge the fact that you have a problem.  First, and most important, admit to yourself that something is happening with you. Put aside your ego and accept that there is something wrong and you have to work on it. Having a menta

17 inspirational facts about Anxiety

People who suffer from anxiety disorder are amazing! I am sure that many of you are ashamed by your disorder, you feel awkward and you feel like you don't fit in the picture. Your colleagues don't understand you, hell, even your family it's kinda distant from you. I am here to tell you why you shouldn't. We are not in middle ages anymore, psychology is developing for more than 100 years now and Mental disorders are not such a tabu. Let us end the stigma together. The best way to do it is to understand ourselves better and to learn our value. Love yourself as you are! Here are 17 interesting facts about anxiety : 1. In 2017 from Anxiety disorder suffered more than 284 million people in the world. That was exactly 3.8% of the population on the Earth back then. If you feel lonely just remember that there is a big chance someone close to you has the same problem. 2. Women are twice as likely to be affected as men. Which is weird, if you ask me because we are the

Grounding techniques

If you have anxiety and panic attacks, you must be scared to death. After all, that is the essence of this disorder. you will be surprised, tho, how many people suffer from it. People different by age, by race, by social status and by way of living. Anxiety made her way into hospitals, offices and nursing homes. The way we live in the 21st Century is prerequisite for developing all kind of mental Illnesses and although we are so modernized the Stigma around it is still strong. Living in big cities, always attached to our phones, always connected, we lost the touch with nature. We feel insecure, restless, disconnected from ourselves and our surroundings. All that are symptoms of anxiety, but also means that we are ungrounded, not fully present to our bodies.  Personally, I always have been a nature kid, it gives me stability and it makes me standing firmly on the ground. Now I live in the capital of my country, I travel an hour every morning to work and I always hurry somewhere. Add

Anxiety and positive feedback loop

 The first time I attended psychotherapy I was a complete train rack. It took all my strength to finally admit to myself that I can't do it on my own. Yes, I am strong and yes, I never give up, but this is so much over me and I simply need help. At this point, I had five of six panic attacks per day and a full weekend is kind of blurry in my mind. All I remember is a black hall and endless pain. There were days when I begged my boyfriend not to go to work so he can stay with me because I was afraid to stay alone at home. Even now, after going to psychotherapy for some time I can't fully understand what triggers it so I can't even prepare myself for the next time. And, you know, for me the most horrible thing is not the attack itself. For me, the most excruciating is the moment before it strikes, the moment of absolute silence. It is like a slow-motion movie where I can see myself from a distance, I realize that I am pail and there is fear in my eyes. I can feel my pulse e